The Right Mix

Perfect Homeschool Recipe

1. cup of creativity

2 cups of free time

3 cups of positive moods

No Scratch that, there is no Perfect Homeschool Recipe, and if you are looking for one you are going 

to be disappointed. There are days your cake is perfect then there are days it just falls flat. 

That is ok do not get discouraged.

Some of us have one wonderfully perfect child that does everything we tell them to do and there are no

special requirements. You people are blessed beyond measure and you should be grateful for this. Go

play the lottery the odds are in your favor. The rest of us may have little Johnny who has ADHD and

occasionally breaks down and cries because he's not getting it. Then you add the newborn in the mix

and you feel like you are getting fruit cake every day. I'm sorry sometimes we don't have what some

would deem the perfect mix. But we do have these magical ingredients every day.

Love

Sometimes Patience :)

Understanding

Desire to do better for our child.

Flexibility

The ingredients have no specific order or process to add. You inject them into your Recipe for Success 

each day. If you are doing this you are doing your best. Trust me that is more than your child would

be getting in most educational environments. Your child is not a number. He is not class of 2021 soon to

be forgotten with the incoming class of 2022. No, your child is your child. You are invested in each and 

every year and you remember each and every year. 

Not every day is perfect but every day was special. 

Public School to Homeschool

I  want to offer some advice. I have people message me often and I am always happy to help but I am going to make a list of basics for you. If you are removing your child from Public Schools.

1. Leave the past behind. Don't think about what they taught your child. Said to your child or did to your child. It is a fresh start.
2. I would start with Unschooling. It will relax your child and they will know it is truly a fresh start. (you do not have to always unschool. You can but you don't have to. Find what works for you. It's just a starting point.)
3. You do not have to pay for a curriculum to homeschool. There are plenty of free ones out there that you can incorporate into your homeschool.
4. Be supportive. Let your child know you are there for them. Do hands-on learning activities. This shows your love and support.
5. Never be afraid to ask for help.

I cannot stress Number 1 enough. When you first remove your child from school the only time you should look back is that first time. You should say what did you like about school and what didn't you like. Write it down and make sure you take that into account. Moving forward focus on your child's future. Their needs. It's a new beginning. If you need help with homeschool from an experienced homeschooler. Then please provide information like this:

-My child is a special needs learner because____.

-My child does not like this specific subject because ____.

-My child loves legos, games, and art. (or whatever their interest are.)

-My child was in this grade but may not be at that level in ____ subject.

-My price range for a curriculum each month is 0 to ____.

-I have internet or I do not have internet.

-My child can or cannot read.

-I am or am not comfortable teaching my child.

I am always more than happy to help and answer questions. As I am sure many others in our homeschool community are.

One last thing if you can afford to pay a monthly or yearly subscription I will almost always recommend MobyMax and Hooked on Phonics to you. They work. I have tested and tried many and these are solid. If you are into n-secular curriculums I will recommend ACE PACES. I am not going to tell you screen time is bad. My son plays Roblox for socialization and it works well. You're their parent it's not my place or anyone else to tell you how to raise them. I am sure all of you are kind loving parents or you wouldn't be here trying to help your kids.

Did someone steal your identity?

Was your identity stolen from someone you know?

This happens every day. Women and men fall

victim to identity theft each day. But, not the kind of

identity theft you hear on the news and internet.

You know the kind. Bob Jones credit cards are

being used across Nigeria. Someone used your

information to make purchases you didn't

authorize. No that is not the kind we are speaking about.

We are talking about the kind that you allow to happen.

Not because you didn't secure your passwords. You don't frequently run malware.



No, because you got sucked into not knowing who the hell you are. Therefore you allow that identity

to be stolen by the universe. You then assume the identity of your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, best

friend, or even your child.


Think about it 10 years ago you hated baseball but, now your new

boyfriend loves it. Suddenly you are sporting his favorite sports 

swag. You are learning a game you never had an interest in. Two years

goes by and he dumps you for the waitress at the Denny's on the

corner. You now hate everything that reminds you of him.

Especially baseball. Your identity is once again lost.

Fast forward 10 more years. You are married. You have children. You

got so busy you forgot that you loved Taco Tuesday & $1.00 Margarita

Monday. You forgot that you love it when your outfits match. You

forgot

that you were once a very talented writer. No, now you wear #ZacsMom

T-shirts to soccer. Now you think you LOVE soccer. No no you don't you

hate sitting in the hot sun with other moms who hate soccer.

Listen it's ok to not like these things. It's ok to be yourself. It's ok to

know that Zac loves soccer and you still have to show up and support

them but, you don't have to love it. It's ok to wear that pink mini

skirt with that hippy tye-dyed top because that's your style. It's ok

to tell everyone you love Margarita Monday and that is what you are

doing today. It's ok to write! Because that is you and that is what

you love to do.

I know I have spoken a lot about women but, men lose their identity 

to. I know a guy let's call him John. John married let's say, Lilly. John

married Lilly and Lilly loves to garden. John has always hated to

garden. But, now he wears overalls and is out there with Lilly every

time she is planting

a rose bush. John still hates gardening. He also hates meatloaf but he

eats it every Friday and pretends he loves it. John use to go to

Nascar races each year but Lilly hates them so now he does too.


No! No! No!

John LOVES Nascar and craft beer. He misses it. Maybe Lilly doesn't 

like those things but that is who John is. Now John has lost his

identity because he has assumed Lilly's.

This is what I have to say about all this. Lilly married John because 

she loved him for him. Does she love him more because he has become

a clone of Lilly. No, she is annoyed that she married a man she doesn't

know.

Is Zac's mom a better Mom because she has assumed her child's

identity.

No! It's weird and she is boring. She is going to die never knowing who

she really was or could have been.

The lesson here is simple. Be yourself! Unless you can be a Wizard then

always be a Wizard.